God. Center your relationship with your spouse around God. All other problems you encounter together will seem insignificant in comparison to striving towards what is Infinite. Pray together when you can; always wake each other up for Fajr.
Patience. Be patient with one another, you both will make mistakes. “Patience ensures victory.” -Imam Ali (as)
Acceptance. Accept your spouse as they are. Do not go into marriage thinking you want to change this and that about your spouse. Marriage will only emphasize the qualities your partner holds, not change them. You learn to love their quirks, it makes them who they are. Accept that sometimes you have to agree to disagree. Accept that you will be wrong, countless times.
Communication. Communicate about everything! Your partner is not a mind reader, and while they will pick up on the little things you do when you are upset, it is still best to just communicate what’s wrong. Being passive-aggressive will ultimately end badly.
Silence. Value silence. I know that sounds contrary to my last advice on communication, but it’s best to find a balance between the two. You and your partner should be able to sit in silence and still feel like you are spending quality time together. Just feel each other’s presence. Sometimes that is enough.
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